Whispers and screams

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The other day I read a comment on the blog Thriving Chronicles – it immediately struck me as so simple and yet deeply profound: “I try to listen to my body when it whispers, so it doesn’t have to scream!”

My goodness – why hadn’t I thought of that!?!

This feels like the fundamental, unspoken, backstory to every migraine attack I have ever had.

I understand that migraine is a threshold disease; annoy my brain with enough triggers (fatigue, hunger, noise), and a migraine will eventually arrive. I know this. I get it. I look for obvious triggers (alcohol, low blood sugar, bright lights) and I avoid them. But it is the LOOKING that is emphasized – I look for this or that and then THINK this, that or the other about those clues…

I’m not LISTENING to how I FEEL.

Sure, I got good at keeping a trigger-tracker (here if you need one) – but there was something slightly after-the-event about that… if I had been listening to the whispers earlier, then I wouldn’t be recording the wailing that took place later.

I sometimes think of my migraine-brain-pain as a glitchy smoke alarm. Instead of waiting for the chips to catch on fire and the kitchen curtains to start burning before it goes off, a bit of burnt bread is enough to start the catastrophizing… and like an alarm, off it goes: weee-oooo-weee-oooo-ouch.

Which in a way is a sign that this ‘alarm’ has shifted to responding to the whispers not the screams… the tiny tendril of wispy smoke, not the full-blown flames and flying embers…

Which in turn, suggests that the faulty alarm-system is potentially on me.

Maybe if I had got a bit better at saying – “slow down” – earlier, then my alarm system wouldn’t have had to recalibrate itself to be so hyper-vigilant.

If I had listened to the whispers not the wails, I wouldn’t now be trapped in a land of whisper-triggers…

It’s giving “Catch 22” vibes to be honest.

So, if you’re still only troubled occasionally by pain – learn from my mistake and tune in now – listen to the messages your body is trying to tell you. Don’t wait until it screams “ow” at you so often that your inner-ow-detector starts to become permanently turned on… don’t let the neuroplasticity of your brain work against you – keep firing those pain signals too long, and you’ll end up with permanent (apparent) pain.

Hmmm… this post has tied itself into a confusing Gordian Knott in its attempt to clarify things… sigh… it’s time to cut away… and say shhhh….

Good luck people – pain is tricky – I HEAR you – I FEEL for you – I am you.

Take care taking care, Linda xox


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21 responses to “Whispers and screams”

  1. Astrid's Words Avatar

    I’ve learned that the context of my perspective to my ailment will determine if I react or listen. When I anticipate with dread, I think too much. When I concentrate on what I’m to learn, I feel more and relate instead of separating from what happens. Overall, don’t let the ‘ow’ bring you down, use the ‘ow’ to discover the ways it raises you in unexpected areas. We hold so much to discover and cherish.

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      Fabulous distinction (as always) – be curious not concerned! 🧑

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  2. joannerambling Avatar

    I am terrible at taking notice of anxiety warnings and just push through the best I can until I crash

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      It’s so tricky… sometimes it works… sometimes, you crash, as you say… sometimes the fear of fear is enough to mess with our minds… ugh… I don’t have any answers – I feel the same… big deep breaths, I guess, as lame as that sounds. xox

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  3. James Viscosi Avatar

    Good advice! Which I could probably stand to do a better job of following …

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      🀣I know right!❀️

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  4. singlikewildflowers Avatar

    This is beautifully written: “the tiny tendril of wispy smoke, not the full-blown flames and flying embers…”! How true that we have to be attuned to our bodies and the whisper warnings to slow down before it catches on fire.

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      Wow! I was actually thinking of your daughter when I was writing those words (in a good way) – I don’t know where to draw the line between ignoring, reacting, and over-reacting… it’s so personal and changes from week to week… but the better we listen, the better our chances of healing! xox

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  5. Brenda Avatar

    Living with chronic conditions is definitely a challenge. Many of my migraines are triggered by the weather – changes in atmospheric pressure, but i tend to just think “this is going to give me a migraine” but don’t do anything to ‘prepare’. I also sometimes think “it’s not too bad (yet)” so I’ll push through. I agree with you totally, we need to listen to our bodies more, and to be more compassionate to ourselves and stop pushing.

    Take care, Linda x

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      Lovely reply – having self-compassion is a great point – I tend to be a bit harsh on myself, and that doesn’t help anything – if we’re doing the best we can, that’s the best we can! xox

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  6. majellalaws Avatar

    This is brilliant Linda! I will try and remember to listen for the whispers.

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      πŸ₯°

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  7. Kym Gordon Moore Avatar

    What a profound line of processing pain and turning it into joy Linda! πŸ€— Yep, I’ve learned and continue to evolve in the presence of tranquility as I step out of the state of chaos and confusion when it tries to go in for my jugular. 😜 I had to kick a lot of stuff to the curb that created toxic levels of anxiousness! Well said! πŸ‘πŸΌ

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      Love the idea of giving chaos a kick to the curb! bye-bye! Here’s to lots more healing and joy! ❀️

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      1. Kym Gordon Moore Avatar

        Amen my friend! πŸ˜ŠπŸ™πŸΌπŸ₯°

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  8. Skyseeker/nebeskitragac Avatar

    I can relate this to my anxiety. I often ignore the small amounts of anxiety in a situation that could escalate and it ends up with having strong anxiety attacks. But I’m working on listening to myself better.

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      I make it sounds like a no-brainer… but it isn’t easy… I am notorious for “pushing through” or “drowning it out” …. but then we pay the price, later and more elevated than if we had listened earlier on… the anxiety issue IS very much the same… although strangely, I seem to listen more those ‘warning signs’ than the pain signals… hope you’re doing OK, xx

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      1. Skyseeker/nebeskitragac Avatar

        I often disobey the first warning signs of anxiety, and then I let it turn into a monster… But I’m working on stopping that. I hope you’re doing ok as well. πŸ™‚

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        1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

          I’m OK today thanks – last couple of days weren’t great…. but ok now… hope you are too… and that the anxiety-train stays at the station!! xx

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          1. Skyseeker/nebeskitragac Avatar

            I’m glad you’re ok. I am fine too, anxiety is calm for the last week, more or less. Hope you stay ok Linda. πŸ™‚

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              🌞

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