What am I doing here?

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While doing my regular blog-land roundabout I came across a blog called The Spectacled Bean and a post labelled “Home Sweet Home: do you know where you belong?” The post referred to an interactive website (OECD Better Life Index) where you can find out which country best suits you based on what factors you hold most dear, such as environment, health, and safety:

Turns out, that based on my preferences… Australia is number 9 on my places of preference… oops. [There were many more countries on the list, but I don’t want to embarrass anyone by implying that I wouldn’t like their homeland – so I only screenshot the top 10!]

[Image source: screen shot of: OECD Better Life Index]

The only BIG problem with this hypothetical – and it is BIG – is that it didn’t ask – “do you like cold weather?” in which case I would have said “no, not really, it hurts my head” and that would have knocked out potentially almost everything except for Canada… and probably half of Canada if my geography is correct.

I played around with the widget-gidget-gadgets for a while to see how much things changed, and they did, but often not as dramatically as I assumed. If for example, I left everything set at zero, except the top three: “I just want a house and a job and show me the money” – then I could get the USA up to the top and Australia lifted to 5. Put in anything extra, and down Australia slid…

I then discovered that you can look up your own country and see how it fares on each factor. In Australia, for example, civic engagement was full marks, health, housing and education were very high, but we ranked very poorly on work-life-balance. I know a lot of you are from the US, so I had a look, and housing was your high scorer, whilst the work-life-balance was also your sore point.

You could also look up the individual factors and see who does well. For “Life Satisfaction” for example (something I had placed high on my wish list), several Nordic countries took the top places. For work-life balance (another factor I valued), Italy and Denmark scored well. And for health (another top priority), Canda, Australia and Switzerland were the top three.

What does this have to do with healing – especially since 99% of us aren’t going to go live overseas anytime soon…?

For me – just thinking about where to move the scroll-bars was fascinating – deciding whether health or safety matters more to me was an insight into myself that I wouldn’t get if someone just asked me a question. By sliding the scrolls up and down, I began to get a feel for what matters most to me.

In the past I have written about “Find your WHY” and the comments back revealed that many of you, were like me… it felt a bit hazy… as if the answer was there, but in a peripheral-vision way, at the edges of our sightline, not front and centre.

In a strange way, this button-scrolling gave me a bit of a clearer picture about personal priorities.

There’s never any right or wrong answer with these sorts of hypotheticals (I still can’t see myself cohabitating permanently with snow) – so whatever answer you get – HOLD IT LIGHTLY – don’t read too much into it… I’m eight countries removed from where I’m “supposed” to be… to which I say ba-humbug! I love my life (pain aside) in Australia.

But if you do have a spare few minutes – it is an insightful experiment.

Take care, wherever you are, Linda xox

[Thanks again to The Spectacled Bean for giving me the idea for this post!]


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22 responses to “What am I doing here?”

  1. James Viscosi Avatar

    Of course this title immediately made me want to go, “I don’t belong heeerrrreee”, but that’s because I listen to too much Radiohead … ๐Ÿ˜

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      And I hummed it the whooooole time I was typing!! ๐Ÿคฃ means we’re both “sooo spec-ia-llllll”…!!

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  2. ibarynt Avatar

    Oooh thankyou, I should check this out.

    Living in a country with zero civic sense, no work life balance, health – we have strong immunity hehe, salary – oops… I’m constantly dreaming because moving is not a reality anymore. It’ll be fun to see my mind though ๐Ÿ˜….

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      I found it illuminating – I discovered more about my priorities in ten minutes than an hour long conversation would have! xx

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  3. Astrid's Words Avatar

    It’s important to find fun ways to do self-reflection. It’s a blessing to have the unexpected bring us exactly what we need ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      I agree – sometimes you need to see yourself from a sideways perspective – I find it hard to articulate what I want / need… but exercises like this toggle up/down helped me refine some decisions in my life. xox

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  4. majellalaws Avatar

    Interesting post. I’m surprised that Australia scored highly on housing.

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      I’m with you – the only thing I could think of was more house ownership as a percentage of population compared to life-long apartment rentals in other countries…?? I can’t see it lasting as a high metric for long; I doubt my daughters will be able to buy anything any time soon. xx

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  5. joannerambling Avatar

    I lost my comment, bugga, now I have to start again, well I am going to check out the Spectacle Bean and that quiz thing as I am curious about what it will say, I have no interest in living anywhere but here but it would be cool to see what it says.

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      The main thing that shocked me was Australia ranking so well on housing; I wouldn’t have agreed with that… it feels like a very tenuous thing here at the moment…

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  6. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

    Very interesting Linda… ๐Ÿ™‚
    Home for me is where the heart is…. That is England the heart of it as I am almost smack in the middle.. ๐Ÿ™‚
    But I once travelled to Canada, and walked to the top of Sulphur Mountain… I had a wonderful experience there that I had never felt before… Perhaps in a previous life … I felt I had come home, as I looked out from the top of it,…
    Sending love xx โค

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      Home is my heartland too… no interest in relocating, metrics or otherwise… I sometimes think high-places put us close to heaven, and there’s always a sense that we have either been there before… or somewhere close to it in spirit… if that makes sense?

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      1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

        Oh yes Linda, that makes perfect sense to me ๐Ÿ™‚ xx โค

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        1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

          ๐Ÿฅฐ

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  7. markbialczak Avatar

    The cold and snowy months here in the part of the world where I happen to live do seem to find me a bit more grumpy, Linda, but itโ€™s not necessarily the weather element changing my mood when I get to the root of it. The shorter daylight hours are just as much at fault, I believe. And those countries that top the living chart have short daylight in their winters for sure. On the flip side, we have a lot of daylight here in our summers โ€ฆ I have stayed put for many decades!

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      The long hours of darkness (and in fact long sunlight hours) would both be hard for me… another reason to stay where I am ๐Ÿฅฐ

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  8. Samantha Joe "Sambuca" Woessner Avatar

    Canada is effin’ cold about oh, I’d say about 75% of the time, that mark moves higher to about 95% in the Territories lol.. ๐Ÿ˜› I’d give my uterus to live in Australia!!

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      Um… please don’t. There are a lot of things about Australia that I don’t think are properly recognized by the numbers-game… the housing score seems absurd to me… the cost of living is making it harder and harder for people to rent let alone buy… that said… it is very scenic… and warm. xx

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      1. Samantha Joe "Sambuca" Woessner Avatar

        *erupts into laughter* Oh man, Linda! Sorry bout that, just tickled my funny bone. ๐Ÿ˜€ Canada will probably get an influx of Americans seeking refuge after Trump’s win. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

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        1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

          I think the news was reporting relocation enquiries were up 1500% – say no more ๐Ÿ˜ถ

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  9. Ally Bean Avatar

    Thanks for linking to my blog post. I appreciate that. I am pleased to know where I supposedly need to live, but also pragmatic enough to know it ain’t gonna happen. I agree about finding your WHY, not easy to do but necessary.

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    1. The Mindful Migraine Blog Avatar

      Thanks lovely – happy to give credit where credit is due!! And the ‘finding your why’ seems so obvious, but once you move past “my family” or “less pain” things can often get a bit vague and blurry. That said, I’m happy enough trying to figure it out right where I am- no home relocation for me!! xox

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